Motivation!

Mood: Sitting here bumping* T.I.'s Motivation. While also celebrating the life of Helen Gurley Brown.  

If you've never picked up an issue of Cosmopolitan I challenge you to grab one at the super market, take it home, read it, fold down pages, share with your 30 Day Challenge Partner and just see what happens.  IT'S MOTIVATION! Sometimes if you don't see it, you can't do it.  But if you start with a conversation it turns into a great segue for you and your 30DCP to knocking one out of the park!  I recently opened up a issue from June and started the conversation about "A Guys Idea of Food Porn".  Only four things were listed.  What do you think the answer is? Talk about it. Post it.  No answer is wrong.  Don't worry I'll share the four they listed.

*bumping: playing the music really loud.

Until Later,

Rules and Guidelines

short and sweet, just three

1.  only one partner at a time (I'll tell you why later).
2.  both parties have to agree to the rules, be open minded, & agree to be coachable through your 30 day process.
3.  have sex with your parter at least once a day for 30 days straight.

Know that this will not only be a test of endurance but also a test of loyalty, integrity, and authenticity.

1. one partner at a time.

In order to have loyalty & integrity you'll have to limit yourself to one person at a time.  Be committed to just one person.  This is why I wanted you to really think about who you're willing to connect with.  Regardless of your social status this is a challenge that will bring you closer together while increasing your lung capacity, your self esteem, ability to do tricks (and a plethora of other things)... you have 30 days, make it count!

2. both parties have to agree to the rules, be open minded & agree to be coachable through your 30 days.

If you've ever played a team sport you know that you're only as strong as your weakest player.  Use this time as your motivation to overcome any preconceived ideas you might have about your body and what it can and can't do...you never really know until you try.  And who said it had to be perfect (it doesn't), plus you have 30 days and practice makes perfect. 

3. have sex with your partner at least once a day for 30 days straight.

The term sex can be any mutual genital stimulation. The term also describes other sexual penetrative acts like vagina sex, anal sex, oral sex, fingering and even the use of strap-on dildos.  Sexual intercourse plays a big role in human bonding, often being solely for pleasure that often leads to a stronger emotional bond.  

Until later,

My Apologies!

So when I started this blog my desire was to create the possibility of stronger relationships. And I've allowed a few things/people to distract me.  Know and understand that as you follow the blog you can be however you want and your expression is desired so please post your comments, just don't try to stop me or redirect* me because it's not in the direction that you THINK I should be going.  If you want to go another direction, create your own blog and get your own following...but over here - I'm going to keep going in the direction I originally started.

So I've been working with my authenticity and in the past I would "redirect" to keep the peace, to keep a smile, to keep a relationship - not realizing that in the end I'm the one upset because I wasn't true to myself.  How many times do you allow that to happen to you?  How many times have you allowed things to stop you dead in your tracks and rationalize why you've made the decision to do whatever it is you're doing?  Let's stop it and get back on track.  30 Day Challenge Rules will be posted within 2 hrs.  

*Redirect: sharing your views is always allowed, when I say redirect I mean don't try to get me to change my focus on my blog because it doesn't match your standards or what some book say our standards should be - we do not all read the same book and I don't want to exclude anyone from the experience.  

Until later,

101 how to read this blog

Just in case you didn't know, because someone (me) thought you did (I'm sorry), this blog has different pages, that reads as a story.  Look at the right hand side under "Blog Archive" and you'll see different post from different days.  Start with July 21st (the first day of the blog) so you won't be lost.  It is set up for those that have been following from the beginning to have the latest post appear at the top of the page (this saves you time).

July (5)  =  I have 5 different post in the month of July.

then it drops down to each day in July and the topic for that particular post.

July 21 (1) = one post for that day.
  Who's up for the Challenge?

If you have any question go down to the bottom of this post and under comments (or it may say "no comments", if it does just click on it) and leave a comment.  Ask away with your questions, I've received the same question from several people so it's all good and when we post them we can respond to everyone as a whole.

Also at the very bottom of the post under the "Posted by P-ILY-TY..." you'll find 5 mini boxes if you choose to share this blog with anyone.  Just click on it and it will link you to that particular site - Email, Blog This, Twitter, Facebook or g+1.

Thanks for keeping an open mind, and also spreading the word about the blog.  It's cool to see the Total Pageviews number increase.

Until later,

Wrapping Your Head, Arms, Legs, Heart...around the idea.

First, we have to welcome Russia. Welcome :)

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Soooooo you're still here - so that lets me know you're thinking about it, RIGHT?  I don't read minds so you'll have to help me with this one.  Some may still be thinking about it, some I know are still laughing hysterically at the idea :) , some have flat out said "NO" while others have shared the idea with those around you.

Declaring that you're going to commit to this diet requires full participation.  NO HALF ASS'N ALLOWED! And if you know you won't be up for the full 30 days please take off your jersey now and watch from the bleachers! Seriously, we'll wait.  Allowing yourself to take the 30 day diet and quitting before your time is up is like saying you want a threesome to then get mad when you realize you have to do twice the work!  We all have things we'd like to do and I'm simply saying don't take this challenge lightly.  If you're gonna do it, do it.  I also ask that outside of the rules and regulations that you try your very best and have an open mind about the possibilities of this.  

If you're going to be stuck with the mind set that this will never work then cool, don't do it, you've already made up your mind so why bother?  But stop your bitch'n and moaning about how you wish this part of your life was better, or how people USE TO look at you, or how you want someone different when you've already dedicated yourself to someone, or you want someone to dedicate themselves to you when you don't to them. Stop complaining about the fat that has accumulated on your inner thigh, and stop saying that your'e tried of the random dick hopping or pussy popping if you know you can't stand the test of time.  O' you thought I put the warning tab up for show... stop it people, we're all grown and even if you're not - This is the way you got here, someone had sex with someone for you to get here. Or mommy and/or daddy paid a lot of money to make it happen. 

Also know that this is a forum (so talk to me), I'd like to know if you have taken the next step (see earlier post about pro's vs con's - in Hold Your Horses), that way I know we can move forward.

Until later,

Hold Your Horses

First, we have to welcome Germany. Welcome :)

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Although I love the enthusiasms (and even the criticism) we're running waaaaaay too fast. You orginally had a smile on your face - what happened? Seriously - what happened?!? Do you even know?  Did you even recognize when it started to fade? Did you start worrying...I specifically said "Hold Your Horses" :) If you don't slow down you might find yourself being shot down before you even get down :) OR maybe engaged in something you haven't fully thought through.

Maybe we should start with a pro's vs con's list. Do you have any? What do you think you might loose/gain from this? Before you start thinking about your partner (even if you don't currently have one), think about yourself. You're the one that's reading this, you're the one that's gonna attempt to enroll someone in the possibiliy... So get YOU together first.

When was the last time you started a diet, followed all the rules and finished? Will you keep your word this time? It's only 30 days and we're talking about something that may only take a few moments but could drastically change the outcome of your current life. You ok with that? Don't answer me now - Just think about it.  And while you're thinking about it, when you're doing your pro's vs con's list  - think of two pro's for every con. Personally I think I'm allergic to the word No, we say it for No (lol) reason at all. O' and know that I'm not telling you no, I'm simply suggesting that you slow down.

Until later,

The Last 24 Hrs

I'm sitting here with a big smile on my face recapping the last 24 hrs of this idea. It's amazing how much has happen in just a short amount of time.  Here's a short breakdown.

• We now have an audience that includes the US, UK, Kuwait, and Australia.  Thanks in advance for sharing the link! Keep it up, lets start a revolution!
• Those that are closes to me know all about it. I was honestly afraid of what they would think...not sure why (o' the whole looking good thing-smh).  The truth is, I have a great support group! Thank You!
• Age range of readers: 14-65 yrs, the 14 year old was reading for their parent (who didn't know what the blog was about).  Great dialog (between 3 generations) about respect, dedication, and integrity came from that one situation. Life Lessons Are Great!
• I fixed the comment section, so feel free to comment away (you may like the idea or not), there is no wrong response - this is a forum to open up the idea of having a closer relationship.
• I also added a few features: a total page view counter, a translate button, & a follow by email option.   

So again thanks for stoping by!

Until later,

Who's up for the Challenge?

So I've been thinking about this for some time now and have finally chosen a platform to log my experience and the experience of those that care to share their experiences with me.  Everyday you hear something about a new diet.  It's always something that guarantees to have you thinner in a shorter amount of time than it took for you to get to the current size you are. So i'm here to propose a different twist to the diet world...how about a 30 day SEX DIET? Yes, 30 days of consecutive sex. I said it and you just read it.  Say it again.  Say it out loud.  Seriously, say it out loud!  There is nothing wrong with the word.

Ok, now that we're a little more comfortable with the word - I want you to just think about the idea.  Hold your horses - I'm not saying run out and do it (although there will be rules and guidelines to the challenge), I'm saying simply think about it.  Stop every ounce of energy you're using to judge, classify and/or dismiss and just think about it. Think about how good you felt when you had sex all the time? O' you never had sex all the time? Well think about how sexy your day dreams were when you day dreamed about having sex all the time.  Remember how relaxed you were? Remember how big your smile was?  How genuine your laughter was? How your body felt and looked? How you used more than just 10% of your lung capacity? How your coworkers knew something was up with you - because you just finished knocking one out of the park....yea THAT smile, the one you have as you're reading this!

My goal with this blog is to create the possibility of oneness with you and your loved one.  To bring you back to a place where you felt safe and good about all that was around you.  I want to share this idea with everyone I can and want you to share it as well.  Yes, go ahead, you can share the link.  I want you to invite people into the idea of having 30 days of something they can look forward to.  Once we get comfortable with just having the conversation then we can move to the rules and guidelines, but for now just chill out with the idea, day dream about the possibilities of the closeness that you will create, day dream about the harmony that will live within your soul and will ooze from your pores.  In a day or so I'll be back to explain the challenge but for now just notice how your body relaxed just a little... hold on to that feeling and we'll chat more later.

Until later,