How many times have you found yourself (new relationship or not) in a intimate session to find that your mate is no where close to taking you to your next level of sexual intensity? You're thinking "Seriously, can you make me cum already?' Not, that you're in a hurry but you want this time to be one of those times you can masturbate to when you're having a Noooot so good day. You're thinking to yourself "No, I really don't like it when you bite me there", "when you touch me like that it totally turns me off".
Do you say something or not? And if you do, is now a good time? Or am I suppose to wait until it's over? I know this question has to cross your mind and I'm asking for an open honest answer.
I know people say they can handle the truth, but can they? Can YOU? Will you totally deny me pleasure because I spoke up or will it be a learning situation that we both can learn from? I've always thought that a great lovers knows how to take directions and welcomes it, what do you think? Let's post away and see how we can help one another!
And yes, it's been a while since we've last chopped it up. Forgive me.
Until later,
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Tuesday, January 22, 2013
We all start out the same...
Looks like France and Poland have joined us once again and also wanting to welcome Ukraine - thanks for checking us out! Please fell free to post your thoughts in the comments below. O' and know I'm not angry... just tired to faking the funk!
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We all start out the same, then some of us get more interesting. People ask why a blog about sex and I think why not? Don't you do it? Don't you like it? Don't you obsess about it or the lack there of?!?!
If not, maybe that's why some of us get more interesting...I'm Just Saying.
It's hard because I never thought I would be faced with such disappointment. I started this as a project and then became totally dismissed about the pseudology of some peoples sex life's.
Why have in-house ass if you never partake in it? Why have in-house ass to only dish it out to the not so hot chick you work with as you sneak to NOT get caught? If I had the right mind I'd blog about that! About the many people that have confessed to their dirt only because the person they're with - doesn't do stuff like that, doesn't have the time because baby I had a hard day at work - are you fucking kidding me?!?! In-House Pussy/Dick is the absolute best you boring ass yes you're being cheated on right now dummy! But no, sigh, I won't blog about that, I like breathing...but please stop asking questions you know the answer to, you don't need me to convince you that someone else my be benefiting from your beneficiary.
Until later...o' and happy new years!,
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We all start out the same, then some of us get more interesting. People ask why a blog about sex and I think why not? Don't you do it? Don't you like it? Don't you obsess about it or the lack there of?!?!
If not, maybe that's why some of us get more interesting...I'm Just Saying.
It's hard because I never thought I would be faced with such disappointment. I started this as a project and then became totally dismissed about the pseudology of some peoples sex life's.
Why have in-house ass if you never partake in it? Why have in-house ass to only dish it out to the not so hot chick you work with as you sneak to NOT get caught? If I had the right mind I'd blog about that! About the many people that have confessed to their dirt only because the person they're with - doesn't do stuff like that, doesn't have the time because baby I had a hard day at work - are you fucking kidding me?!?! In-House Pussy/Dick is the absolute best you boring ass yes you're being cheated on right now dummy! But no, sigh, I won't blog about that, I like breathing...but please stop asking questions you know the answer to, you don't need me to convince you that someone else my be benefiting from your beneficiary.
Until later...o' and happy new years!,
Saturday, December 15, 2012
more than sex and money
First we have to welcome Hong Kong, Huan Yin (Welcome) and Venezuela, Bienvenido(a) (Welcome) :) and thanks for visiting!
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There are two things people want more than sex and money...recognition and praise.
- Mary Kay Ash
What kind of recognition and praise have you given your 30DCP?
Until later,
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Dec 11th - Most fertile day of the year
I'm sure you've heard it and if not here we go :) research shows that today is the most fertile day of the year. It's been on every news outlet and each and every one seems to be pretty interesting. September 16th is the most popular birthday and counting back it leads researchers to list today Dec. 11 as the most fertile day of the year. Why you might ask, some say it's because of the festive energy and a lot has to do with the quality of male sperm being GREAT in colder weather. Sooooooo if you're reading this stop and go and ummmm handle up, and let's see if you and your 30DCP can be one of the many couples having a baby on Sept 16th. And if you can't have babies, I say role play...we all know that its a sure way of enticing your partner!
And also to celebrate this day and with it being a little late I present to you a Kama Sutra pose called "Reach for the Heavens" very similar to the traditional missionary pose but this one is for the lazy lover, for your tired partner. Ladies follow the picture (it looks easy but you'll have to stay focus to achieve your ultimate climax), keep your knees down and press your thighs together (as if you don't want him to get it) Men, try not to use your hands to guide your penis inside, see the picture and as you are trying to get to your appointed destination use that together space to whisper (don't wake the neighbors) your sexy thoughts to keep you both stimulated. Ladies each and every time he strokes his penis will glide along your inner thighs and labia and this will create a great workout session. Remember this too is a sexual act, you don't even have to enter, as long as you are stimulating your mates genitals (as stated earlier in the rules). And if you want to make a game out of it, give your partner so many strokes before the game (smile) is over, men love to compete and this will give him something to work for! Have fun everyone!
Until later,
And also to celebrate this day and with it being a little late I present to you a Kama Sutra pose called "Reach for the Heavens" very similar to the traditional missionary pose but this one is for the lazy lover, for your tired partner. Ladies follow the picture (it looks easy but you'll have to stay focus to achieve your ultimate climax), keep your knees down and press your thighs together (as if you don't want him to get it) Men, try not to use your hands to guide your penis inside, see the picture and as you are trying to get to your appointed destination use that together space to whisper (don't wake the neighbors) your sexy thoughts to keep you both stimulated. Ladies each and every time he strokes his penis will glide along your inner thighs and labia and this will create a great workout session. Remember this too is a sexual act, you don't even have to enter, as long as you are stimulating your mates genitals (as stated earlier in the rules). And if you want to make a game out of it, give your partner so many strokes before the game (smile) is over, men love to compete and this will give him something to work for! Have fun everyone!
Until later,
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Your mind is always somewhere else
For some reason (we know you have many) your mind is always somewhere else. What are you gonna make for dinner?, who's gonna go over homework with the kids?, did I pay that bill?, SSSSHIT... does my inspection sticker expire this month?!?
And you wonder why you're not happy, why your 30DCP looks at you crazy when you ask "how are you?" and they fight not to say "I'd be great IF I could get laid" because they (and you as well) know that it will just start another round of the silent treatment.
Wait, what happened, you haven't always been like this. It was a time when one might have to hose you two down to keep from tearing the clothes off of one another once you walked in the door. IF you even got to the door. Head while driving, finger fucking in the elevator (because the thought of getting caught makes it even better!), having a quick round of GREAT SEX (in the parking lot or garage) - YEEES, it was Gr-r-reat!! But where tha fuck did it go?!? You can make up 1001 excuses but none of them are worth loosing the attention of your 30 Day Challenge Partner!
Seriously people - SLOW DOWN, your life isn't that important. I'm sure if you don't make the next social meeting someone else will break their neck to take it over. You have to get back to the basics, back to where you started...OR start a new exciting chapter! Just take the time to spend time with your mate because if you don't, just like that social meeting...someone else will!
Until later,
And you wonder why you're not happy, why your 30DCP looks at you crazy when you ask "how are you?" and they fight not to say "I'd be great IF I could get laid" because they (and you as well) know that it will just start another round of the silent treatment.
Wait, what happened, you haven't always been like this. It was a time when one might have to hose you two down to keep from tearing the clothes off of one another once you walked in the door. IF you even got to the door. Head while driving, finger fucking in the elevator (because the thought of getting caught makes it even better!), having a quick round of GREAT SEX (in the parking lot or garage) - YEEES, it was Gr-r-reat!! But where tha fuck did it go?!? You can make up 1001 excuses but none of them are worth loosing the attention of your 30 Day Challenge Partner!
Seriously people - SLOW DOWN, your life isn't that important. I'm sure if you don't make the next social meeting someone else will break their neck to take it over. You have to get back to the basics, back to where you started...OR start a new exciting chapter! Just take the time to spend time with your mate because if you don't, just like that social meeting...someone else will!
Until later,
Monday, November 26, 2012
You love me...
It's amazing the little things that make me smile - over the American holiday season of Thanksgiving I was notified that Turkey (of all places) has dropped by a few times to check out the blog. WOW -THANKS & WELCOME Turkey! Please feel free to post your thoughts.
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My dedication to start the week.
"You love me especial-ly different every time
You keep me on my feet happily excited
By your cologne, your hands, your smile, your intelligence
You woo me, you court me, you tease me, you please me
You school me, Give me some things to think about
Ignite me, you invite me, you co-write me,
you love me, you like me
You incite me to chorus, ooooooh Oh..."
- Jill Scott: He Loves Me
I love this song and the energy it ignites! There is something so amazing about the feeling that love captures when you truelly allow yourself to be caught! A special thanks to the many of you not afraid to share your true self. Keep up the good work, others are watching, and maybe one day they'll feel free enough to join (smile).
Until later,
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My dedication to start the week.
"You love me especial-ly different every time
You keep me on my feet happily excited
By your cologne, your hands, your smile, your intelligence
You woo me, you court me, you tease me, you please me
You school me, Give me some things to think about
Ignite me, you invite me, you co-write me,
you love me, you like me
You incite me to chorus, ooooooh Oh..."
- Jill Scott: He Loves Me
I love this song and the energy it ignites! There is something so amazing about the feeling that love captures when you truelly allow yourself to be caught! A special thanks to the many of you not afraid to share your true self. Keep up the good work, others are watching, and maybe one day they'll feel free enough to join (smile).
Until later,
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
The Art Of Oral Sex
Poland, Sweden, Russia, China are all in the HOUSE!! Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome! Ummm are y'all having sex over there? Maybe you could chime in and help others - Thanks for checking out the blog, feel free to share your thoughts and views!
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Know that what once worked --- maaaaaaay not work anymore, so you may have to Change It Up! Surprise your 30DCP with a move that could win you the AVN Award of exceptional performance in a live scene! Turning the body and changing positions often can really keep you and your partner guessing as to what's gonna come next...more heightened stimulation?, or the ultimate goal of having your partner explode right before your eyes? I mean HEY?, you did it when the relationship was new, why not change it up and keep your partner on the edge of their seat just wondering if they'll be able to keep their voice down and not wake the neighbors (or the kids) as you explore every ounce of them.
The Art of Oral Sex is up to you... pay more attention to what and how your partner responds and keeping it up to keep them happy! 30DCPartners Stop Faking PLEASE... everyone knows the fake porn screams can be an instant dick shrinker! Handle them as if you were trying out to be the ONLY PERSON to please them, and I bet you'll have a award winning escapade to flash back on down the road.
Until later,
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Sexy lingerie...fucking empty box
First we have to welcome France, Welcome :) and thanks for visiting.
I'm on the line and can't help but blog about a statement. The topic is sex, duh, and the guy is telling me his girl has drawers and drawers of lingerie and would get upset because... well this is how it goes:
Him: Yeah, my girl has a shit load of that [lingerie] mess!
Me: What?, you don't like it?
Him: Shit ----- I mean, I did, at one point ----- when I thought It meant something would go down.
Me: Wa'wa' wait a minute, sooo she has it but doesn't wear it? How dat work?
Him: Yeah she wears it but shiiiiiiiit, it's not like we gonna put each other to sleep or nothing...
Me: I'm Sorry, I'm Lost. You don't cum? You don't have to every time!
Him: Hell, I don't start! I mean, if I could at least get some head, i'd be alright!
Me: (Holding back laughter) O' so sexy lingerie is like having a nicely wrapped gift, to open it up and it's a fucking empty box?!?!? Dat's some bullshit.
Him: EXACTLY!
Me: hahahahhaha I start typing, [duh, i'm the author]
Him: Stop fucking typing! Ass!
Needless to say it's not funny, but I tend to laugh a lot, my bad. Soooo 30DCPeeps what's up with this? Why would you be a tease if you're not gonna please? Having and giving good head can and will go a looooooooo (yes, I'm still going) oooooooong way! I'm just saying, it does!
Until later,
I'm on the line and can't help but blog about a statement. The topic is sex, duh, and the guy is telling me his girl has drawers and drawers of lingerie and would get upset because... well this is how it goes:
Him: Yeah, my girl has a shit load of that [lingerie] mess!
Me: What?, you don't like it?
Him: Shit ----- I mean, I did, at one point ----- when I thought It meant something would go down.
Me: Wa'wa' wait a minute, sooo she has it but doesn't wear it? How dat work?
Him: Yeah she wears it but shiiiiiiiit, it's not like we gonna put each other to sleep or nothing...
Me: I'm Sorry, I'm Lost. You don't cum? You don't have to every time!
Him: Hell, I don't start! I mean, if I could at least get some head, i'd be alright!
Me: (Holding back laughter) O' so sexy lingerie is like having a nicely wrapped gift, to open it up and it's a fucking empty box?!?!? Dat's some bullshit.
Him: EXACTLY!
Me: hahahahhaha I start typing, [duh, i'm the author]
Him: Stop fucking typing! Ass!
Needless to say it's not funny, but I tend to laugh a lot, my bad. Soooo 30DCPeeps what's up with this? Why would you be a tease if you're not gonna please? Having and giving good head can and will go a looooooooo (yes, I'm still going) oooooooong way! I'm just saying, it does!
Until later,
Monday, November 5, 2012
born sexual creatures
"We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it's a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift."
- Marilyn Monroe
As I sit here doing a play by play of the several sex conversations I've had with readers I find one common denominator: just about everyone is ashamed to, or shall I say unwilling to do so freely, talk/post about sex. First I thought it was just because it's a blog, now I see that you're not even talking to the one that counts the most...your 30DCP.So what gives? It's not like I've started with payments, positions, propositions, and prescriptions or anything - although I'd really like to do so - but hell I feel like I have to take baby steps for a large group of people that I know are sexing somebody up (even if it's a solo act, hell you know what you like) and I might would give it a pass if you didn't use me as your Sexologist... i'm just creating a forum that we can dish about what's really going on (maybe help each other out) when you commit yourself to one person for 30 days. For you newbies its a sex diet. In hopes that you increase you heart rate, reduce the stress in your life and learn to love the person you've committed yourself to. And if you don't have a partner maybe this can be a tool to use the next time you chose to entertain someone - are they really worth you and your time?, If you died at day 31 would it have the best last 30 days of your life?
And please don't get me started on those that have a mate but care to sex elsewhere, ummm this is for you stupid. Love the one you're with or fucking bounce. And stop wasting your mates time because truth be told they might would prefer someone else over yooooooooou!
Until later,
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
To Give or To Receive, which do you prefer?
So many people I come across still get hung up on conversing with their 30DCP*, you would think by now the challenge alone would have you talking just a tad bit more. Oral sex is still something so many of you choose not to express your inner thoughts: I don't like ______, I only like ______, it's great when she does _____. The crazy thing is, is that it's only gonna get better when you talk about it.
Him - "Well, I thought you thought it was nasty"
Her - "Really?!?! Good Lord you really need to get to know me, Ummm why would you think that?"
Him - "Cause you never do it!"
Her - "but you never give me a chance"
Him - "O'ummm, yeah, we can change that"
Studies have shown that many people (mainly men) like to give rather than receive. I've found that it's arousing for myself to see you twitch around as I pull you closer and closer to your breaking/screaming point. Call it control if you like, it has a lot to do with power as well, I think. Just having the ability to see your body convulse uncontrollably is a wonderful thing, and also knowing that for the rest of the day You'll Be Thinking About IT! Yeah, that's my MAIN OBJECTIVE! So what's going on out there world? To Give or To Receive, which do you prefer?
Until later,
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Happy Hump Day
Canada has entered the building! Welcome Canada :)
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Yes it's an old spot (that won a gold CLIO for Viral Marketing and a silver CLIO for Animation in 09') but I still love it! I'll track down the outtakes on a later date, just wanting to wish everyone a Happy Hump Day!
Until later,
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Yes it's an old spot (that won a gold CLIO for Viral Marketing and a silver CLIO for Animation in 09') but I still love it! I'll track down the outtakes on a later date, just wanting to wish everyone a Happy Hump Day!
Until later,
Friday, October 12, 2012
...allow your pheromones to do all the talking!
India is in the HOUSE! Welcome India :)
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?Seriously...having ADHD and writing a blog doesn't always work. So I wanted to dish about cuddling and have found like 8 different directions I wanna go, then I keep getting text comments (?seriously people - Post It On The Blooooog, please), while constantly having flashbacks (I love flashbacks) of CUDDLING. I LOVE TO CUDDLE, among other things. But for real - you get to be all close and personal (I'm really thankful for my sense of smell) and your pheromone start dancing around and getting all happy with one another and your insides get that safe/YeeeeeeeeS, I'm GoNnA gEt It (or I JUST GOT IT) feeling and you're either gonna sleep real REAL good or knock a few out of the park OR both! I'm Just Saying - when you cuddle all kind of stuff starts to flowing and popping off, ultimately ending with GREAT FUCKING SLEEP! And I don't know about you but good sleep is priceless! Sooooo what style of cuddling do you prefer? Although the hair is straight jacked afterwards - I love the close intertwining of the limbs, and prefer the warmth of the inner thigh, with the finger tips massaging the scalp (the sound that makes can be sooooo relaxing).
O' and I originally wanted to let you know that the peeps at the Kinsey Institute did this study and found that men in long term relationships were happiest when they cuddled the most. Ladies let your 30DCP pull you in for the cuddle, that way you know they really want it! There's nothing wrong with requesting a cuddle break/nap time either. It's a great way to unwind from a busy day - play the quiet game (1,2,3) and allow your pheromones to do all the talking!
Until later,
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?Seriously...having ADHD and writing a blog doesn't always work. So I wanted to dish about cuddling and have found like 8 different directions I wanna go, then I keep getting text comments (?seriously people - Post It On The Blooooog, please), while constantly having flashbacks (I love flashbacks) of CUDDLING. I LOVE TO CUDDLE, among other things. But for real - you get to be all close and personal (I'm really thankful for my sense of smell) and your pheromone start dancing around and getting all happy with one another and your insides get that safe/YeeeeeeeeS, I'm GoNnA gEt It (or I JUST GOT IT) feeling and you're either gonna sleep real REAL good or knock a few out of the park OR both! I'm Just Saying - when you cuddle all kind of stuff starts to flowing and popping off, ultimately ending with GREAT FUCKING SLEEP! And I don't know about you but good sleep is priceless! Sooooo what style of cuddling do you prefer? Although the hair is straight jacked afterwards - I love the close intertwining of the limbs, and prefer the warmth of the inner thigh, with the finger tips massaging the scalp (the sound that makes can be sooooo relaxing).
O' and I originally wanted to let you know that the peeps at the Kinsey Institute did this study and found that men in long term relationships were happiest when they cuddled the most. Ladies let your 30DCP pull you in for the cuddle, that way you know they really want it! There's nothing wrong with requesting a cuddle break/nap time either. It's a great way to unwind from a busy day - play the quiet game (1,2,3) and allow your pheromones to do all the talking!
Until later,
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
kiss them until the honey is gone
Touching while kissing is always an added bonus as well. If you don't believe me, try it. Try kissing for a while and then grab your 30DCP and pull them closer to you...as if you couldn't breath if their lips weren't touching your lips. I liked the comment from an earlier post about the goodness of honey (thanks Steevn) and it made me think of a Honey game. Try pouring honey on your partners lips (you pick a set...or maybe both if time permits) and kiss them until the honey is gone or until your partner begs you for more. Let's get back to kissing and see how many calories we can burn.
Until later,
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
...how do you like your eggs?
Poached, scrambled, boiled or fried? The way you prefer your eggs opens secrets about your sex drive and personality traits a British study has claimed. After quizzing 1,010 adults the study found the following:
La Cala Bar - Barcelona, Spain |
Poached: You're outgoing and likely to be happier than most.
Scrambled: You tend to be guarded people. Favored by those without children.
Boiled: You tend to be disorganized and run the greatest risk of getting divorced.
Fried: You have a higher sex drive and are usually from the skilled working class.
As a bonus: Omelet eaters are self-disciplined.
To me, it brings a new thought to asking how do you like your eggs?
Until later,
- Special thanks to Andrew Joret and the BEIC (British Egg Industry Council).
To me, it brings a new thought to asking how do you like your eggs?
Until later,
- Special thanks to Andrew Joret and the BEIC (British Egg Industry Council).
Monday, October 1, 2012
...What Turns You On?
Not sure if you've noticed but you may be a little closer to your 30DCP... when you participate in anything time and time again you get a little closer to the person you thought you already knew. So what's changed? Have you found things that you didn't really know before? Like that you're ticklish behind your left knee or that hands around your throat may now be something that's a turn on? Discuss with your 30DCP your turn ons, maybe you have new ones that turn you on in different situations. And don't forget to praise your 30DCP, let them know what you like and how you liked it! And if you have any you care to share with the group I encourage you to post away - Soooooooooooo What Turns You On?
Until later,
Until later,
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
KEEP THE ORGASMS COMING....
So it's been a long day and the last thing on your mind might be continuting with this 30 challenge. You're hungry, you still have homework to review, what's a guy/girl to do?!?!
I say make you and your 30DCP a Orgasm Smoothie. Making this promises to keep the orgasms coming, blend the following ingredients and try not to wake your neighbors!
Blend and enjoy!
Honey: Honey is rich in vitamin B, which is needed for testosterone production. The gooey nectar also contains boron, which may increase estrogen levels in women.
Until later,
I say make you and your 30DCP a Orgasm Smoothie. Making this promises to keep the orgasms coming, blend the following ingredients and try not to wake your neighbors!
1 cup blueberries
1 cup rice, almond or non-fatmilk (substitute with juice of your choice if you don't want to use milk)
1 cup ice chips
½ cup peaches
1 tablespoon flaxseed
Dollop of honey
Sprinkle of ginger root (season to taste)
Sprinkle of nutmeg (season to taste)
Blend and enjoy!
Bananas: Contain potassium and B vitamins that convert carbohydrates into energy, boosting endurance and testosterone.
Blueberries: High in soluble fiber, which keeps arteries clear of cholesterol. Improved blood flow and relaxed blood vessels improve a man's erections, especially in older men.
Peaches: High in vitamin C. Men should consume at least 200 milligrams of vitamin C per day to increase the quality and quantity of their sperm.
Flaxseed: Increases testosterone levels and is packed with essential fatty acids, such as Omega-3 and Omega-6, which keeps hormones at optimal levels and sex drive revved up.
Honey: Honey is rich in vitamin B, which is needed for testosterone production. The gooey nectar also contains boron, which may increase estrogen levels in women.
Ginger root: Stimulates the circulatory system, increasing blood flow to the genitals. I say use this in EVERYTHING :)
Nutmeg: Stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps you relax. I say use this in EVERYTHING :)
Nutmeg: Stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps you relax. I say use this in EVERYTHING :)
Until later,
Thursday, September 13, 2012
there is always someone watching you
First we have to welcome Portugal, Welcome :) and thanks for visiting.
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Even if you don't have children, there is always someone watching you and your current (and even past) relationship.
Wouldn't you want to be the couple that exudes real love? I saw this quote and I can't help but express how thankful I am that I come from loving parents, touchy parents, free expressing parents that at the end of the day take care of each other. This is all I really know if i'm honest.
I guess it shouldn't surprise me when others don't get it...maybe it's because they didn't experience it growing up. Well if you didn't have it, I say let's break the cycle and create the possibilities of showing love and taking care of each other, so that we can be an example to those around us - young and old. We can all learn from one another. Let's take care of each others needs so that we can rebuild the comfort level that comes with true relationships.
What are a few things you would consider "taking care of each other"?
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Even if you don't have children, there is always someone watching you and your current (and even past) relationship.
Wouldn't you want to be the couple that exudes real love? I saw this quote and I can't help but express how thankful I am that I come from loving parents, touchy parents, free expressing parents that at the end of the day take care of each other. This is all I really know if i'm honest.
I guess it shouldn't surprise me when others don't get it...maybe it's because they didn't experience it growing up. Well if you didn't have it, I say let's break the cycle and create the possibilities of showing love and taking care of each other, so that we can be an example to those around us - young and old. We can all learn from one another. Let's take care of each others needs so that we can rebuild the comfort level that comes with true relationships.
What are a few things you would consider "taking care of each other"?
Friday, September 7, 2012
Touch Me...please
Touch is and can be such an intimate gesture. It can communicate a ton of emotions without uttering one single word. Often times people presume that touch can be too intimate so they tend to shy away from it. While others jump into the deep end of touch because that's comfortable for them and they just want to experience everything touch has to offer. Before we jump into the sexual realm of things, I'd like for you to think about how little kids touch without fear of rejection. Kids normally invade your space and in return you can't help but to laugh...sometimes because it reminds you of a time when you touched without fear of rejection.
Today I want to celebrate touch! Try it out. Touch your 30DCP* and when they touch you, touch them back! ACTUALLY, I want you to allow your touch to be the only thing used to convey your thoughts, emotions and energy. Let's also share about our experiences - we should stand for each other and open our minds to the possibilities of ______ (be creative and fill the blank with something astronomical!).
Until later,
* and if you don't have a designated 30 Day Challenge Partner use touch to introduce the idea to them.
* and if you don't have a designated 30 Day Challenge Partner use touch to introduce the idea to them.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
FANTASIZING = ORGASMS...so why would you be against it?
I've been told by women in their 40's that they've never had an orgasm before. Could you imagine never being taking to the NEXT LEVEL? Well, I guess if you've never been there you don't really know what you're missing.
Remember this is an open forum, with desires to inspire you and your partner to be more open and delightful with one another and your bodies. What are some of your tricks that you'd be willing to share with fellow 30 Day Challengers? Spill your guts and tell us what helped you achieve an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension? What got your partner there? We have a 30 Day Challenge and we must make every experience the very best!
Personally, I enjoy the unexpected orgasm, when your partner THINKS they're in full control and it just shows up! It makes you step back, take in a full panoramic view while catching your breath, pat yourself on the back and say "yeah, I did that!" Yeah, for me helping to erase the stress of the day with a "make you pass out before dinner is served" orgasm is pleasure enough!
Until later,
Remember this is an open forum, with desires to inspire you and your partner to be more open and delightful with one another and your bodies. What are some of your tricks that you'd be willing to share with fellow 30 Day Challengers? Spill your guts and tell us what helped you achieve an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension? What got your partner there? We have a 30 Day Challenge and we must make every experience the very best!
Personally, I enjoy the unexpected orgasm, when your partner THINKS they're in full control and it just shows up! It makes you step back, take in a full panoramic view while catching your breath, pat yourself on the back and say "yeah, I did that!" Yeah, for me helping to erase the stress of the day with a "make you pass out before dinner is served" orgasm is pleasure enough!
Until later,
Friday, August 17, 2012
Motivation!
Mood: Sitting here bumping* T.I.'s Motivation. While also celebrating the life of Helen Gurley Brown.
If you've never picked up an issue of Cosmopolitan I challenge you to grab one at the super market, take it home, read it, fold down pages, share with your 30 Day Challenge Partner and just see what happens. IT'S MOTIVATION! Sometimes if you don't see it, you can't do it. But if you start with a conversation it turns into a great segue for you and your 30DCP to knocking one out of the park! I recently opened up a issue from June and started the conversation about "A Guys Idea of Food Porn". Only four things were listed. What do you think the answer is? Talk about it. Post it. No answer is wrong. Don't worry I'll share the four they listed.
If you've never picked up an issue of Cosmopolitan I challenge you to grab one at the super market, take it home, read it, fold down pages, share with your 30 Day Challenge Partner and just see what happens. IT'S MOTIVATION! Sometimes if you don't see it, you can't do it. But if you start with a conversation it turns into a great segue for you and your 30DCP to knocking one out of the park! I recently opened up a issue from June and started the conversation about "A Guys Idea of Food Porn". Only four things were listed. What do you think the answer is? Talk about it. Post it. No answer is wrong. Don't worry I'll share the four they listed.
*bumping: playing the music really loud.
Until Later,
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Rules and Guidelines
short and sweet, just three
1. only one partner at a time (I'll tell you why later).
2. both parties have to agree to the rules, be open minded, & agree to be coachable through your 30 day process.
3. have sex with your parter at least once a day for 30 days straight.
Know that this will not only be a test of endurance but also a test of loyalty, integrity, and authenticity.
In order to have loyalty & integrity you'll have to limit yourself to one person at a time. Be committed to just one person. This is why I wanted you to really think about who you're willing to connect with. Regardless of your social status this is a challenge that will bring you closer together while increasing your lung capacity, your self esteem, ability to do tricks (and a plethora of other things)... you have 30 days, make it count!
1. only one partner at a time (I'll tell you why later).
2. both parties have to agree to the rules, be open minded, & agree to be coachable through your 30 day process.
3. have sex with your parter at least once a day for 30 days straight.
Know that this will not only be a test of endurance but also a test of loyalty, integrity, and authenticity.
1. one partner at a time.
In order to have loyalty & integrity you'll have to limit yourself to one person at a time. Be committed to just one person. This is why I wanted you to really think about who you're willing to connect with. Regardless of your social status this is a challenge that will bring you closer together while increasing your lung capacity, your self esteem, ability to do tricks (and a plethora of other things)... you have 30 days, make it count!
2. both parties have to agree to the rules, be open minded & agree to be coachable through your 30 days.
If you've ever played a team sport you know that you're only as strong as your weakest player. Use this time as your motivation to overcome any preconceived ideas you might have about your body and what it can and can't do...you never really know until you try. And who said it had to be perfect (it doesn't), plus you have 30 days and practice makes perfect.
3. have sex with your partner at least once a day for 30 days straight.
The term sex can be any mutual genital stimulation. The term also describes other sexual penetrative acts like vagina sex, anal sex, oral sex, fingering and even the use of strap-on dildos. Sexual intercourse plays a big role in human bonding, often being solely for pleasure that often leads to a stronger emotional bond.
Until later,
My Apologies!
So when I started this blog my desire was to create the possibility of stronger relationships. And I've allowed a few things/people to distract me. Know and understand that as you follow the blog you can be however you want and your expression is desired so please post your comments, just don't try to stop me or redirect* me because it's not in the direction that you THINK I should be going. If you want to go another direction, create your own blog and get your own following...but over here - I'm going to keep going in the direction I originally started.
So I've been working with my authenticity and in the past I would "redirect" to keep the peace, to keep a smile, to keep a relationship - not realizing that in the end I'm the one upset because I wasn't true to myself. How many times do you allow that to happen to you? How many times have you allowed things to stop you dead in your tracks and rationalize why you've made the decision to do whatever it is you're doing? Let's stop it and get back on track. 30 Day Challenge Rules will be posted within 2 hrs.
*Redirect: sharing your views is always allowed, when I say redirect I mean don't try to get me to change my focus on my blog because it doesn't match your standards or what some book say our standards should be - we do not all read the same book and I don't want to exclude anyone from the experience.
Until later,
Friday, July 27, 2012
101 how to read this blog
Just in case you didn't know, because someone (me) thought you did (I'm sorry), this blog has different pages, that reads as a story. Look at the right hand side under "Blog Archive" and you'll see different post from different days. Start with July 21st (the first day of the blog) so you won't be lost. It is set up for those that have been following from the beginning to have the latest post appear at the top of the page (this saves you time).
Also at the very bottom of the post under the "Posted by P-ILY-TY..." you'll find 5 mini boxes if you choose to share this blog with anyone. Just click on it and it will link you to that particular site - Email, Blog This, Twitter, Facebook or g+1.
July (5) = I have 5 different post in the month of July.
then it drops down to each day in July and the topic for that particular post.
July 21 (1) = one post for that day.
Who's up for the Challenge?
July 21 (1) = one post for that day.
Who's up for the Challenge?
If you have any question go down to the bottom of this post and under comments (or it may say "no comments", if it does just click on it) and leave a comment. Ask away with your questions, I've received the same question from several people so it's all good and when we post them we can respond to everyone as a whole.
Also at the very bottom of the post under the "Posted by P-ILY-TY..." you'll find 5 mini boxes if you choose to share this blog with anyone. Just click on it and it will link you to that particular site - Email, Blog This, Twitter, Facebook or g+1.
Thanks for keeping an open mind, and also spreading the word about the blog. It's cool to see the Total Pageviews number increase.
Until later,
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Wrapping Your Head, Arms, Legs, Heart...around the idea.
First, we have to welcome Russia. Welcome :)
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Soooooo you're still here - so that lets me know you're thinking about it, RIGHT? I don't read minds so you'll have to help me with this one. Some may still be thinking about it, some I know are still laughing hysterically at the idea :) , some have flat out said "NO" while others have shared the idea with those around you.
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Soooooo you're still here - so that lets me know you're thinking about it, RIGHT? I don't read minds so you'll have to help me with this one. Some may still be thinking about it, some I know are still laughing hysterically at the idea :) , some have flat out said "NO" while others have shared the idea with those around you.
Declaring that you're going to commit to this diet requires full participation. NO HALF ASS'N ALLOWED! And if you know you won't be up for the full 30 days please take off your jersey now and watch from the bleachers! Seriously, we'll wait. Allowing yourself to take the 30 day diet and quitting before your time is up is like saying you want a threesome to then get mad when you realize you have to do twice the work! We all have things we'd like to do and I'm simply saying don't take this challenge lightly. If you're gonna do it, do it. I also ask that outside of the rules and regulations that you try your very best and have an open mind about the possibilities of this.
If you're going to be stuck with the mind set that this will never work then cool, don't do it, you've already made up your mind so why bother? But stop your bitch'n and moaning about how you wish this part of your life was better, or how people USE TO look at you, or how you want someone different when you've already dedicated yourself to someone, or you want someone to dedicate themselves to you when you don't to them. Stop complaining about the fat that has accumulated on your inner thigh, and stop saying that your'e tried of the random dick hopping or pussy popping if you know you can't stand the test of time. O' you thought I put the warning tab up for show... stop it people, we're all grown and even if you're not - This is the way you got here, someone had sex with someone for you to get here. Or mommy and/or daddy paid a lot of money to make it happen.
Also know that this is a forum (so talk to me), I'd like to know if you have taken the next step (see earlier post about pro's vs con's - in Hold Your Horses), that way I know we can move forward.
Until later,
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